Nicky’s Life Part 58

January 2008 – Nicky showing his flexibility! This is one of the few things he can do with his body. He may not be able to walk or move much, so it’s always fun for me to see this fun/crazy side of him. In this picture Nicky was 12 and he hasn’t really changed much at all, he truly looks the same!!! That smile and the ability to not think about his condition and concentrate on doing what he can do is something I truly admire about him. He does not dwell or despair on the ugliness of his EB. He loves his routine and does what he can do instead. I don’t know if there will everRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 57

March 2014 – When Nicky was 4 years old I decided that perhaps playing video games would be beneficial to him and something he could do without getting hurt. I bought a used Super Nintendo and we started playing Mario Kart every day. He loved it. I wanted him to win, so I would sit in 2nd place and throw turtles at anyone that passed me. Before long Nicky got so good he not only didn’t need my help, but when I tried to win, I hardly ever could!! Nicky’s love affair with Mario and the gang continues till today. 3.5 years ago with the help of a variety of wonderful souls I was able to redo hisRead More

Nicky Life Part 56

August 1997 – Nicky and I on our way to our anniversary dinner. ~ Excerpt from the Book “Butterfly Child” “The Physical Therapist became sort of a confidant; after all, I saw her twice a week and I felt she was one of the few people that might have answers to a question I was constantly asking myself: ‘Is this normal?’ It’s just the nature of having a child with a disability and not having another child to compare him to. Sometime it was normal, but most often it wasn’t. I was determined to give my son a quality of life that was as high as I could make it, and I knew that was dependent upon theRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 55

August 1997 – Nicky here is 8.5 months old and with my help he can stand up. At this point his feet were not too bad so he could put some weight on it. Plus, he was not that heavy! This is key and one of the reasons why nowadays it’s painful for him to stand, he’s just too heavy. He’s an adult now. Notice I am holding his arms and not his poor little hands. I cringe when I see the awful state of his hands. This is one of the horrible things that RDEB (Recessive Dystrophic EB) is responsible for, the scarring and mittening of the hands. We would end up doing his first hand surgeryRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 54

July 2013 – Nicky, 16.5 years old, on the deck of our cruise ship as it was approaching Dawes Glacier. Following is an excerpt from the Book “Butterfly Child”. In early 2012 a woman from the Scott Ward-Schofield Memorial Fund contacted me. This Charity was formed to raise awareness for Epidermolysis Bullosa and arrange and pay for holidays, short breaks and special days out for sufferers and their families/carers. I was happy to help this woman spread the word about her foundation and then several months later she asked me if Nicky had in mind a place to go for a vacation. “Oh, I don’t know” I told her. Nicky was having his hand surgery at the timeRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 53

December 1998 – Nicky, 2 years old, showing off his straight ‘new’ hand after surgery. Following is an excerpt from the Book “Butterfly Child”. The hand itself, thanks to my hellish efforts did heal up straight, but for a while there I thought it wouldn’t. As wonderful and caring the hand surgeon was, he just could not comprehend my paranoia in making sure the hand healed straight. The problems with the scar tissue that covered Nicky’s hand before the surgery were many. Scar tissue does not breathe and it has no oil glands, that’s why it looked so bad, it’s very dry and squams constantly. One other big problem with scar tissue is that it does not “grow”Read More

Nicky’s Life Part 52

October 1997 – Nicky, 11 months old standing up on the couch. He was so excited! Following is an excerpt from the Book “Butterfly Child”. This happened right around the time this photo was taken: “A few days later, in the evening, Nick and I were watching “Wheel of Fortune” when Nicky out of the blue started throwing up serious amounts of blood. It was a lot more than the previous week; it was a scene out of a horror movie, there was blood everywhere. I was shaking as I was holding Nicky, unable to even remotely think of what to do next. Nick picked up the phone and called 911. Within minutes we had several firemen inRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 51

June 2001 – Nicky, 4.5 years old @ Stanford just before his dilatation. Following is an excerpt from the Book ‘Butterfly Child’ Chapter 9 “One of the things that turned out to be very frustrating about the move was finding a new Pediatrician. After much research I took Nicky to the first appointment and let’s just say this woman was a complete disappointment. Not only she was quizzing me on the minutiae of his care, which made me feel defensive and guilty at the same time, but also she knew absolutely zero about EB – not a surprise there – so why is she telling me I “overwrap” my child? How would she know? She also refused toRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 50

Nicky in Kindergarten, late 2001 – Kindergarten was only “half day” so school started a little after 8am and ended at 11am. The teacher suggested him coming in on Tuesday/Thursday only to get used to it, and if he could handle it, then he could come every day. This was all fine and dandy, but how was I going to just “drop him off”? I had written an extensive sheet of “what to do in case…” for the teacher and the staff, but still, nobody here knew anything about EB, so I resolved this issue by starting to go to school with him and kind of “hang out” in the background, helping him if he needed me. TheRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 49

March 2009 – Brotherly Love! Nicky (12 years old) is hugging his little brother Connor (5 years old). So cute!!! I love doing digital scrapbooking but I haven’t done it in a very long time… as soon as I am finished digitizing all my old videos I will try to devote a morning a week doing this again. So much fun! How cute is this brotherly love page? I love, love, love my babies. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 99

Nicky’s Life Part 48

September 1997 – The Theme for Nicky’s nursery was Pooh as it’s painfully obvious! I love how I set up this photo in his crib with all the Pooh characters. And that smile… it just melts me all over… More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 102

Nicky’s Life Part 47

August 1997 – Nicky and I on our way to my anniversary dinner…. Nicky looks so spiffy, but despite the smiles, behind the scenes, I was a mess. At this point I was taking Nicky to the Physical Therapist twice a week and she became sort of a confidant; I felt she was one of the few people that might have answers to a question I was constantly asking myself: ‘Is this normal?’ It’s just the nature of having a child with a disability and not having another child to compare him to. Sometime it was normal, but most often it wasn’t. I was determined to give my son a quality of life that was as high asRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 46

March 2001 – I was thinking about this picture just the other day when we were driving back from Stanford and I was so happy to find it. Isn’t Nicky cute? “Casa De Fruta” used to be just a big fruit stand, now it’s a mini-amusement park, complete with a restaurant, rides and tons more, between Gilroy & the San Luis Reservoir. We almost always stop, it’s on our way! Nicky here was wearing his little soft slippers, back when he would have no problem wearing long pants and jackets. Things are very different now. 🙁 More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 86

Nicky’s Life Part 45

September 1997 – I love this picture of 10 month old Nicky with his dad, if only because of those BIG blue eyes! His poor mouth was in bad shape, he had already stopped eating baby food at this point and could only ingest liquids. On occasion he could chew on a cracker, but it was a rare occasion and I would only attempt at giving it to him if his throat looked like it could handle it. Our first trip to the ER for throwing up blood would soon start. I hate EB. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 111

Nicky’s Life Part 44

December 2008 – Nicky in his Mecca! He was 12 years old in this picture at a GameStop at the Antelope Valley Mall. When Nicky was 4 years old I bought an old SuperNintendo so I could teach him to play Mario Kart; I loved that game! I thought that this is something he could do to entertain himself. Before long he got very good and to make sure he won I used to sit in 2nd place with a bunch of turtles and throw them at anyone that passed me so they could not beat him. 🙂 He would be soooo happy to win! Of course 15 years later, now NIcky is the master of all games.Read More

Nicky’s Life Part 43

October 1998 – This is my dad’s absolute favorite photo with Nicky, taken at the Milan airport in Italy on the day we were flying back home to Phoenix. Nicky was almost 2 years old. I know it may seem bizarre since they are giving us their back, but dad spent a great deal of time teaching Nicky to walk and just loving him and would follow him around everywhere. Til this day he’s extremely fond of him even though he does not see him often and was thrilled to see him this past summer. My dad is 85 and is still one of the most amazing human beings I ever met and I am sincerely humbled toRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 42

October 2002 – A fun memory of Disneyland with Nicky, almost 6 years old. We spent the day with a couple of other EB families and it was a blast. It’s fun to remember the good times too. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 84

Nicky’s Life Part 41

October 2010 – Nicky here was almost 14 years old when we went to Minnesota for a counsel for a Bone Marrow Transplant. My darling boy was just out of anesthesia here while we were waiting for our ride to take us back to the hotel. They had just taken some biopsies and did blood work to determine eligibility.  In the end Nicky decided against it for many reasons, too many to enumerate here, but I had to take him there to “explore” and get all the information he needed first hand so he could make an educated decision himself. He was old enough at this point to decide to do or not to do something this invasiveRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 40

My little guy! Nicky here was 1 month old, this photo taken on New Year’s Eve 1996. I had just gotten his face all healed up from the scratches he had on his face due to his nails, so at that time I resorted in putting gloves on him to prevent further damage. I tried to use the softest clothes and covered his skin as much as I could to prevent any possibility of blistering. I started getting his hands “out” at 4 months, but he lost all his nails by the time he was 1 year old. A blessings in disguise, truly. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19Read More

Nicky’s Life Part 39

My sweetie pie! I just want to pick him up and cover him with kisses. Here he was about 6 months old in the late Spring 1997 and taking a nap surrounded by pillows. I will forever regret not bandaging his hands back then, I just did not know they would web and contract. No “real” internet back then and no Doctor knowledgeable enough to tell me otherwise. Nicky is one of those perhaps rarer cases of RDEB where his fingers were already contracting when he was 9 months old. By then his index finger was already a permanent “hook”. What causes the webbing and contracting is the scar tissue that builds up due to the wounds healingRead More

Nicky’s Life Part 38

May 1998 – I love this picture of my grandma Rina (then 95 years old, she passed away in 2005 close to her 102nd birthday!!), playing around with Nicky when we spent 8 months in Italy. My mom is holding him. We had gone to Italy to basically save me from a nervous breakdown. I needed my family’s help and they were very willing and able to do so. I love my family and miss them more than words can say. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 84

Nicky’s Life Part 37

January 2009 – Nicky was 12 years old in this picture showing his “talent”, LOL. He can’t really keep his legs straight to walk, but he sure can do other things… crazy! More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 108

Nicky’s Life Part 36

June 2008 – Nicky was 11 years old in this picture taken at Camp Wonder in Livermore (CA). I started taking Nicky to camp in 2003 when I was pregnant with Connor and we’ve gone every year since. Nicky told me the other day that he’ll go as long as they allow him, “it’s MY week” he told me. Surrounded by other EB kids and Doctors/Nurses and Counselors that are so incredibly caring, he feels safe and he has so much fun. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so much for your support!! http://www.butterflychildamothersjourney.com/?page_id=19 Love & Light,   Post Views: 102

Nicky’s Life Part 35

February 2004 – Nicky was 7 years old in this picture with his little brother Connor, who was 6 months old. I love this picture. I can’t help but remember how much Nicky loved his little brother when he was little, he simply adored him. Of course their relationship has changed over the years and while they do love each other, they tend to bicker a lot lately. I can’t help but think that this is just normal brotherly stuff, but as a mom I don’t like it and I am constantly playing the peace advocate, lol. It’s a full time job at times, I tell ya. More of Nicky’s story in the book… Thank you so muchRead More