I was reminded recently of how lucky I am that my personal beliefs are rooted in direct personal experiences rather than bigotry, hatred, hearsay & ignorance. Through the storms of my life I kept an open mind and learned things and lessons so many are not privy of. That’s why I like to tell my stories, so that individuals can take heed of my experiences and learn a few things about life without actually going through hell, but it’s sadRead More →

I’ve been lucky. I come from a very loving family. My husband is amazing and a great dad. Even my ex is a truly caring dad. My kids are the most amazing, loving, compassionate people. I am so proud of the young men they have become. I like to think I have great taste in friends, as some have turned out to be impeccable human beings, but the past few years, it seems as if hate is everywhere. I don’tRead More →

A couple of years ago, in the name of being “supportive” in regards to Nicky (or so he claimed), someone told me “At least he’s not dead”. Apparently this individual had lost two cousins to some condition he did not identify and that was the reason for his statement. When I was outraged and said “gee, thanks!”, he did not apologize, either. He didn’t think he anything to apologize for, imagine that. It was certainly not the first time someoneRead More →

It’s late February. It’s inevitable. Everything affects me more deeply. I find myself being more melancholy, my grief is more intense, disabling, confusing and all-consuming. My son Alex should be 23 years old in a few days. I didn’t just lose a baby these many years ago, I lost a lifetime of memories with someone that I loved before we ever met. Some of the hardest losses we experience as human beings are those involving children. They go against nature.Read More →

“I care too much, and it’s OK. I will not let anyone tell me I am wrong to love, to have empathy or compassion. Period.” That is what I posted on Facebook this morning with this image on the right from this great Minister John Pavlovitz which I’ve come to greatly respect. What prompted this post? Basically the hatred that I see from my so-called “friends” and people that I once admired. People that have nothing better to do with theirRead More →

The other day I came across a post about “9 things Italians living in the US will miss“, and while I concurred with everything posted, the one that spoke to me most was the one about family living close by. Oh, how I miss that! But it goes further than that. It’s the whole culture, the whole mindset that came to mind while I was reading this post. The mindset of caring for one another in a broader sense. InRead More →

Somehow, someway, life’s challenges and hardships help us evolve as human beings in a variety of ways. Having had hardships myself, and in turn, having met many moms who are disabled, or had to bury their children, or had children with profound disabilities, gave me an opportunity to learn compassion and empathy in ways people not exposed to this kind of life can understand. I may be able to explain how it feels to them, but I cannot make them understandRead More →

Of all the crazy TV shows I watch, one of the silliest must be “The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills”. I think it’s silly mostly because we see what people with an insane amount of money do, like taking a swan to the veterinary, buy a $190,000 ring, travel halfway across the country just to look at a tiny horse with a too-too, or get your bum waxed on national TV. While as human beings, I do believe these women are “mildly” interestingRead More →