I am the mother of 3 boys, 2 in heaven, 1 on earth. My first son Alex (whose demise is most likely EB related) was stillborn at full term. After a miscarriage, I had my second son Nicky, who was born with the Recessive Dystrophic form of Epidermolysis Bullosa. He died in late 2021. My youngest son, Connor, is 100% healthy, and I never, ever take it for granted. I am an author, photographer, graphic artist, webmaster, blogger and more. I hope my life and my struggles through grief and special need parenting inspire you to enjoy each moment.
My heartfelt book, Losing Alex, which I wrote after the loss of my first baby, Alex, who was stillborn at full term, is now officially an AudioBook and I couldn't be more proud and humbled by the amazing voice of Marsha Waterbury, for lending her talents for my story.
Thank you Marsha! Click Below to see it or purchase it! Prices for the book start at only $2.99!
12 Life Rules on Being a Mature & Responsible Adult
Be Healthy, Stay Healthy
You have one body and it has to last you as long as possible, so treat it well. Vegetables, fruits? Yes! Your body loves those. Get your move on as well. Don’t have time to exercise? Just park as far away as possible, take the stairs, truly, if you don’t use it, you lose it. Move them legs.
Don’t Be a Bitter Ex
Bitterness feels bad. It’s aging. It’s negative. It’s yucky. Most especially if you have kids with that ex… just look for the positive, always. Ignore the negatives. You loved this person at one time, so remember that feeling. Never bad mouth the mother or father of your children to them. Never use your children against their other parent. NEVER! Grow up!
Be Kind To Yourself
Take time out for you. Do something you like. Stop talking negatively toward yourself. So what you have a few extra lbs, so what your tooth is crooked. Fix it if you want, but don’t let it define you. Relax. Destress. Always have ME time.
Call Your Parents
Always call your parents. They are not going to live forever. You have a beef with them for some reason? FIX IT.
Take the Initiative
You want to write? Write. You want to design clothes? Do it. Even if there is no money involved, at least at first, you can practice and get better with time. Can you imagine what an amazing world we could live in if everyone LOVED what they did?
Be Kind/Never Assume
You never know what people are going through. Many do not feel like sharing their troubles and prefer to keep to themselves. Never assume someone might have it easy. A closer look might show you otherwise…
Don’t Air your Dirty Laundry in Public
With the advent of Facebook, it seems as if some people are overly sharing things that should never be shared or should only be shared with precious few, not everyone. It’s like they are gossiping on their own life. Have some dignity and respect for yourself! Edit, edit, edit.
Unclutter your life. You do not need all this stuff. Live Simply. People rely on their credit cards way too much. I know, I did too. Make a budget with a little extra spending money and everything else stash away. You can have different stashes, a stash for a vacation, for xmas, for retirement, what-have you. I despise paying interest on something that I bought on sale. Why did I buy it on sale if I then have to pay interest? Forget it. It’s fine if you like shoes and want to splurge every now and again (you should see my boot & book collection) but think hard before you splurge every day or too often. Ice-cream does not taste as good when you eat it every day, does it?
Don’t Bad-Mouth Others
It does not matter the context, if you were hurt or feel like venting. Do not bad-mouth publicly ANYONE. It reflects extremely bad on you. Extremely. It’s like a sharp sword that turns back on YOU! This includes bad-mouthing people that do not believe in your religion, political affiliation, sexual orientation… your ex! Seriously, don’t do it.
Defeat is part of life. My first baby was stillborn, the second I lost to a miscarriage. Then I had a child with EB. I am also certain I lost 2 babies before I knew I was pregnant, mostly because my period was mega-late. Did I quit? No. I wanted my healthy baby, and in the end I got it. I am no quitter.
Don’t Regret Growing Older
It’s a privilege denied to many, isn’t it? Cherish each wrinkle. Your skin will get loser too. It’s ok. You’re still you, just wiser. If you want to live a long life, you’ve got to put up with it. Know it’s going to happen. It’s OK.
Laugh & Love More
Be the first to say you’re sorry. Laugh until you cry and Love with all your heart.