We Judge & It’s Wrong. It’s Just Wrong.

I was reading an excerpt of the book by Taraji P. Henson (Around the Way Girl: A Memoir) about her life as a single mom and it hit me hard. Harder than I imagined. I read and re-read the few sentences and I felt as if I wrote them myself. Needless to say it’s next on my “to read” list. Taraji was married to what she calls her “forever man”, her first love, but over the years he eventually became physically abusive.  It took guts, but she decided to leave him-which was a sound decision as it saved her and her son’s lives. Unfortunately this decision opened her up to many judgements by people who love to judgeRead More

Quote on Being Supportive

We are all ill equipped to judge situations we know nothing about. What we can do is be supportive. Listening is the most important thing I tell everyone to do. Offer to help, acknowledge, respect. ~Silvia Corradin Post Views: 153

Make America Kind Again

We live in a world that has become overly hateful and judgemental, even plain rude, and to me, it’s a direction that needs to be reversed. If there is an America we need right now is an America that is more kind. More understanding. More willing to give the benefit of the doubt. More willing to try to see the other’s point of view. If we’re not willing to do that, than we need to follow the rule we all learned in preschool: “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” I know people are probably thinking I am talking about politics. I am not. Look, I was not happy with the election results, but I care about myRead More

Ill Equipped To Judge

It has been said that opinions are like… ahem…(feel free to fill in the blank)… everyone has one. We all know that well, don’t we? I came across a blog just today that explains people in similar positions as mine that go through exactly this. Let me give you a couple of the examples they give: What you said: God never gives us more than we can handle. What we heard: You’re fine. Quit whining. What you said: He seems fine to me! Or, All kids do that! What we heard: You are a very dramatic person and you should get over yourself. Also, you are very likely a huge liar. I realized lately that I was definitely guilty of thisRead More

Until It Happens To You

I have to admit I only heard the song by Lady Gaga “Until It Happens to You” when I saw her perform it at the “Oscars” this year. It was amazing. It was amazing especially since I wrote a blog awhile back about this particular… shall I say… “flaw” in our human existence. We seem to be ill equipped to understand something until it happens to us. Unless it personally affects us in some way, we can’t seem to put ourselves in those shoes. Because I’ve chosen to put myself and my struggles “out there” and up front with both losing a baby at full term and raising a child with a severe form of RDEB, I’ve becomeRead More

Encounters

A few years ago I had a brief encounter with a little girl that I am still thinking about. I was at Children Hospital Los Angeles with my boys; Nicky had an appointment with the endocrinologist (I think?) and on our way out a couple was behind us with this little sweetheart in a big stroller. She had a flower on her hair and a frilly dress on, but what gave us pause was her face. Despite having some sort of excess bone growth condition, which made her head 2-3 times bigger than normal, she sported the sweetest smile on her face. I told the boys to smile and wave back, which they did, and it wasn’t untilRead More

Should it bother me?

I have to admit it. Through my trials of the past nearly 18 years, not much seems to bother me anymore. I am amazed at the thick skin (pun intended) I’ve developed over the years. I chuckle daily at the things people complain about on Facebook or other social networks, and I know I learned a lot and have come a long way from the teenage girl whose ego was easily bruised. I strive to be the gal who does not care about what people think, what people do, how people behave, but when it comes to my children, some things I just can’t shrug off so easily. But maybe, when it comes to my children, it shouldRead More

The funny thing about Priorities…

This past spring I did something I’ve been wanting to do for a LONG time. I bought the software and the plugs needed so I could transfer all my old VHS tapes and Hi-8 Tapes from my camcorder to my PC so I could make DVDs out of it. I had bought my camera back in 1992, but I had borrowed my BIL’s camera (a cameraman by trade, who even worked for several TV stations) well before then, so I had several videos from the late 80s and early 90s. I didn’t realize this decision would make such impact on Nicky. To be able to see mom and dad before he was born and see videos of himselfRead More